Wednesday, October 26, 2011

When You Aren't Working

Tonight as I sat at Starbucks I couldn't help overhearing the conversation of two people that had obviously just met for the first time.
Maybe they met online or something.
Was I eavesdropping?
No, I was trying to zone them out and finish my Saramago book, but the woman portion of them was talking SO LOUD -- it was driving me crazy.
Anyhoo -- so much of the talk revolved around what they "do".
And by "do" I mean -- for a living.
I don't do much dating.
And by "much" I mean…….. any, really.
But if I did, I think this is one of the things I would be least interested in. What the other person did during the work-time hours of the day.
I would be more interested in what they loved to do when they are not working. After all, isn't that what dating is all about?
I would be more likely to ask the person, "What is it that you love to do when you aren't working?"
Isn't that what her and I are going to be doing most of the time, if any of this "works" out?
Not working?



Stefanie said...

You are so right Cip! Unfortunately, people tend to use what people do for a living as a way to put them in a box. You're a lawyer? You must be smart and rich You're a manager at McDonald's? Then you must be a big loser. Meanwhile, the lawyer is an alcoholic who abuses animals and the McDonald's manager volunteers every weekend at the children's hospital. We think about work and life all wrong.

Anonymous said...

I agree completely and I think you should have said as much to her just to show her how loud she was talking, that everyone around was listening in because they didn't have a choice.
That might have gotten her to talk about what's important and maybe even more quietly too.
Double whammy!